I’m Over Sex Being Everywhere [Rant]

I've been looking at this screen for the last 20 minutes trying to think of an appropriate beginning to this rant and nothing seems to fit. So, here goes... I'm sick of seeing Kim Kardashian's boobs and butt all over my computer. I'm sick of sex being everywhere. I'm sick of it being ok. I'm sick of people acting like trash and being praised for it. I'm sick of it all.

(Prepare yourself. This is my opinion of how sexuality has completely taken over our society and how I'm over it. If you don't want to have an honest, lengthy discussion about it, you should probably stop reading now.)

Before anyone calls me a "hater," let's get this out of the way... I'm nowhere near perfect. I've made mistakes my entire life and will continue to. I'm a 32-year-old, divorced, God-fearing single Mom who is worried about us. By us, I mean our entire society, young and old. I allow myself to fall into the self-doubting traps that are unknowingly set for us by unrealistic expectations of beauty and happiness, just like you. I'm concerned that we are in a bad place.

About Kim K... I couldn't give two craps about her. Really. What do you expect from someone who's claim to fame is a "leaked" sex tape? Now, I don't know her personally and don't care to. I'm sure she's a really nice girl with a big... heart. It's really not her fault that she can post a few nude pics and we all act like it's the most exciting thing to happen in the history of the world. Oh, in case you didn't know, an unmanned spacecraft landed on a comet 310 million miles from Earth Wednesday and you're fascinated by a big ole oiled-up booty. Priorities, y'all.

We don't watch "grown-up" TV in my house before Carsyn goes to bed. No, I'm not one of those parents who tries to raise their child in a bubble, but I'm going to control what I can and TV just isn't what it used to be. Give me some Family Matters, Full House or Step By Step and I'd be glad to turn it on! I don't even have on the major networks because of one thing... commercials. I'd rather not have my five year-old daughter catch a glimpse of a man shoving a woman up against a wall with his hand going up her skirt during a commercial break from The Voice. I'm a grown woman who's made a baby and enjoyed 50 Shades of Grey, if a preview airing at 6:30pm can turn my face red, it's probably not appropriate. Call me a prude, doesn't bother me at all. Let's face it, TV is trash. How can you be required to have ratings for movies with viewing restrictions, but television is free game? Makes a lot of sense.

Now, here's the part that I'm most concerned about and it's not celebrities showing off their goods for the highest bidder, it's us everyday folks. Y'all crack me up on Instagram showing off your new hat, eye make-up, sad face, whatever, all while pushing your boobs together to create some cleavage. You're fooling no one. Now, I'm not talking about fun beach pics from family vaca. I'm talking about posting pics for the sole purpose of having someone of the opposite (or same) sex, envision you in a sexual way. Whether or not you want to admit it, that's exactly what you're doing. Now, I get it, it's tempting. I see it too... some wanna-be model (male and female) posts dozens of half-naked pics, in compromising poses and gets thousands of likes and hundreds of comments. It can be discouraging, especially as a female, to see how responsive pictures like that can  be. Especially when you can see who likes what pic. Especially when it's the guy/gal you're crushing on. Especially when you want them to "like" your cute pic, that took you 20 minutes to get right. I understand. I've been there. But, here's the thing... anyone can be hot. Not everyone can be a beautiful person. As corny as it sounds, being a beautiful person is much more attractive than being hot.

Now, is someone who poses half-naked a bad person? Nope, not at all. It's just not for me. I'm a Mom and the most important job I have, is to be a good example for my daughter. Like I said before, I'm not perfect, but I'm also not naked for the entire world to see. Not to mention the fact that if I tried to do something like that, my Mother would put me in my place, quickly. Growing up, having an in-your-face, I'm gonna tell you when you're wrong Mom, was annoying. As an adult, I'm so thankful that she was a parent first and a friend second.

Feeling confident in your own skin is hard to do and you should be proud of every inch of you. I'm just now at a point that I'm comfortable with my flappy arms, I-had-a-baby gut and cellulite. (Gasp, boo, hiss...) But, we all realize that you can be proud of yourself without putting it on display, right?

We overcomplicated things.

Want to be treated like a lady... Act like one.

Want to find a good woman... Be a man that's worthy of one.

The way I see it is, what you are and what you have is pretty dang special. When you throw it around like it's nothing, others will treat you that way.

I am a confident woman who knows who I am and I'm proud of it. I am loud, funny, opinionated, a friend, radio DJ, singer, Mom, daughter, sister, niece, aunt, sorority sister, childhood friend... the list goes on and on. But, there's a lot to me that you don't know. I'm easily embarrassed. I can be a loner.  At home, I tend to prefer silence to chatter. There is also a side of me that you will never know. A private side. A side that only comes to light behind closed doors. And, knowing that you're part of something that private and exclusive is pretty dang hot.

The bottom line is, you can have it all. You can be strong, smart, independent, confident and sexy. But, you don't have to throw it around for everyone and their Momma to see. Let's get back to some discretion. I promise you, the world can be an exciting, impressive, attractive place...even with our clothes on.